I am who I am;
a baby bird trying out its feathers, learning to fly, savouring its new found
freedom. I am a cloud ,dark and heavy waiting to explode, to shower its sparkly drops
on life so beautiful and for I am the rainbow that shares its colours bright
and beautiful after a storm. I am a coward , no a shadow afraid of my powers , afraid of
what I can do if I let my guard down and yet I yearn to let me be…I am a lover
, gentle with careless whispers and filled with sacred delights but yet
unsatisfied , I am whole , full and yielding , I am a mother to a child, I am
life , I am divine…a daughter , a sister but yet I stand low , I am all, I am
me, I am you , I am we….my true self opening as I raise above the ashes I have
created …..i am, I am as I stand as strong as the baobab tree from my mother, my
grandmother’s story of strength and love, I am , I am exploding into who I AM . 💃💃
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Friday, 29 December 2017
Friday, 12 May 2017
Heavenletter #6012 First Make Peace in Your Own Heart, May 11, 2017
God said:
It certainly seems that the world is too much with you too often. The thing is that you want plenty of everything. You want to ride the rapids while you also want to float on cool mountain streams. You want plenty of sunshine, and you desire plenty of the darkness of night too. You want it all while you want it, whatever it may be, when you want it. Confess, you love contrast, darlings. You want what you want when you want it, and, even then, you may not feel consoled. You want to direct traffic while, at the same time, you just want Life to happen. Beloveds, sometimes you give Life mixed signals.
If everything were your choosing, what would you choose? Not so sure, are you? What about choosing goodness and mercy for all? How about starting with that?
You might want to nix some occurrences that previously you had invited. Choosing Life inch by inch isn't so easy as you would have thought. Of course, some matters you are positive about, yet you're not positive about everything. Dear Ones, you simply don't have enough information to positively know where something might lead you. You may have some fear that, left to your own devices, you might miss out on something, or, on the other hand, you could be up a creek. You may want to be a leader, yet find yourself stranded.
Of course, you paddle your own canoe as best you know how. At the same time, you don't find yourself always at your best. How you would like it if there were no such things as best and least. At the same time, so-so wouldn't do it for you either. You might really like to be ecstatic all the time. Even so, sometimes you require grazing fields where you can simply be and chew your cud.
You may hear that there is a season for everything. As much as you might complain about winter ice and snow, there is something in them for you. Just as you might rail about the summer heat, you do love the contrast, will you admit this? You may want everything at your leisure, yet, at the same time, you can't keep changing your mind in the middle.
What would Life really be like when you could have your Life at your beck and call? It could be lopsided.
In any case, all this is daydream. You can't lay down all the rules. You don't know what could come from decisions you might make hither and yon. You wouldn't be able to do away with thunderclouds because it is not your wont. Randomness could lack merit. In any case, although Humanity's Consciousness can affect the weather, the Human Mind is not yet so savvy to know the extent to which you can withhold or unleash.
Have more trust in the Universe. It is a sound idea to trust in God. Give Me credit. There are decisions you are not yet ready to make except in foolishness. It may well be that the more you are sure you would know what you are doing, the more ignorant you might be. Yes, you could be foolish. Yes, you could indeed.
You may not yet fathom or appreciate the whys and wherefores of the world. This means nothing more than that. Beloveds, you are not as yet the Soothsayer of the World. Not by a long shot.
What genius would declare war? Isn't declaration of war a folly? Allowing the point of war to become a contest could be the height of folly. No one can declare that war is a decision of brilliance. Stimulating, yes. Brilliant, no. Battle is not to be proud of.
First, make peace in your own heart.
Wednesday, 19 August 2015
Unconditional
Unconditional love
Today I don't like my kids...my life
....but I love them and my life.....
Could it be hormones I ask myself as I
realize that I am angry with my kids, angry with my life and everything around
me. I felt sad, empty and lost...my youngest son was crying over every little
thing, the older one was shouting and jumping everywhere and the nanny I paid
to help me handle situation like this was making it worse....and I felt just
tired, I felt I just don't like everything around me at that moment
but deep down inside me I love everything around me!
That was me some months back and still
a little bit of me this days, I use to get all upset with myself ,with my
family, the kids , I was just so tired and I felt my life has been taking over
,I use to just stare out my window and ask myself, was this the deal? Was this
what I hoped for? but then out of the
blues , after so many years of pain,
after reading so many online guides and buying and downloading so many books(
some helped and some were just a disaster!) I understood the meaning of like and love and
I understood the difference between like and love..... It's okay not to like
something at a particular moment in time but love it , to just be in the moment
and accept what you are feeling , to let go and swim in that ocean of the
unknown, the wilderness. I learn to appreciate and accept the concept of not
liking something but loving it whole heartedly. This acceptance began my
journey of enjoying moments with my children and my family.
I became aware of the concept and began
the learning of how I can be in harmony with both words at the same time; how to like and
love at the same time, to unite these two unique words, to accept , to like and
to love all at once. And to me, this I called unconditional love.
Moments that I find myself in the verge
of shouting and raining all sorts of WHY, WHAT....THE...F***...HOW ....moments
when my beautiful house looks and feel
like a witch cauldron ,with everything fused into one room-cloths,
toys,food,dirth,papers,snacks-I mean all, days where I can't remember if it was Monday
or Thursday , moments that I can't even remember my own thoughts, I have learn
to accept the beauty in it and what I am feeling , to fully immerse myself in
the moment and not to struggle with it or to fight with my feelings....and thus
I have learn to love and like.
I
love my family with all my heart and I will go to any length for them, I now
know how to love the utter dysfunction of the house (“sometimes”) , the lovely
quite moments, the happy loving moments , the screaming happy or sad faces .To
be honest I still find myself lost amidst all the craziness a times and sometimes I
don't like it...but I realize that I need to just step away, take a breath
,just calm myself down before it all comes back and I accept the moment and
breath it in and out. And then I remember how unconditionally I love everything
about all the things I don't like....
I read something a while ago which I
always refer too when I get that feeling of not liking....it was a beautiful
write up about liking our children , our life and spouses and not just loving
them and the writer goes like" how many of you really like your children,
your family and your spouses , not love but like" ? It's a question that has resonated well
within me and made me to really think about my relationship with my family and
myself....
We live in a world today that is so
demanding , so many task to do, work, family responsibility , life style and so
much more and sometimes this demands can take a toll on us and without knowing
we stop liking , we just stop.....we love but we don't like because we are so
tired, stressed, and so over whelmed ......but I have learn to take a step
back, take a breath and remind myself that those moments with utter dysfunction
and craziness are a blessing, blessings to cherish and moments that will never
return , moments stolen away by time ... What more can we do but to try to
embrace it all , try to not even think about it or attach any illusions to it
but to accept it fully and delve into it with all our heart.
Don't get me wrong I can still easily
get carried away and forget myself most times,
giving way to defining the moments as difficult or wishing this was not
happening or hoping for something easier or a controllable chaos ! but then I
am thankful that there is always that notch of love always tugging on my soul
and reminding me it is the moment....there is no other moment like it...so
enjoy it and fully engage with it. Every day it is becoming easier, I get a
little bit closer to fully learning to like and love my kids, my husband and to
like and love my family and utmost on the list is to like and love myself for
that trickles down the road to the other likes and love....I have accept it as
my journey to cherish.
I have made a bargain with myself that every
moment of my life must be cherished and lived, every moment must be lived
consciously and every moment must be accepted in this journey. That bargain is
my ticket to learning the lessons life offers me every second and it is my
guide to whom I am as I take this beautiful journey of discovery ...of amazing
love and of different colors in every moment together with those marvelous
souls that have chosen me as their mother, spouse, siblings, friends and many
more.
I wrote the note below as a reminder:
I said to myself as I look upon those dear to me.....
For the very first time I met you...
I knew there will be moments of sadness and moments
that I did not like you, Moments of anger, moments of pain and sorrow , Moments
of love and moments that I will hold dear to my heart and cherish on the journey we are taking
together.
From the moment
both of you were placed in my hands at different times in my life and I look
into your tiny ,wide beautiful faces...I knew there will be moments of sorrow,
moments that make me forget who I am, moments of love, Moments that I don't
like you, Moments that felt like forever, Moments of anger, of raising my voice louder
than usual and moments of pain but I knew also there will be moments irreplaceable , moments of
great joy and satisfaction, moments that filled my heart with love and
happiness and moments that will gladden my heart forever....I knew there will
be moments of tears , tears of joy, sadness and utter happiness.
For the first
time I saw you all I knew moments will come.....but I was not scared for I knew
the moments will pass as the seasons pass and only the memory of great
unconditional love felt all through the years will remain as we all fly into
the world .......those moments are foot prints in my heart and in your hearts
and I knew that those foot prints will be the Angels that guide us all through
the beautiful journey of our life.
Also shared in http://womenforone.com/author/rahinatu-adamu/
Wednesday, 29 July 2015
Infertility; The pain and joy in life....
I can still see her round soul searching innocent look every time I remember her. My third neonatal lost, she was pretty and so very fragile, she was just 24 weeks old , born too soon and immature into the world.
She was the third child I have lost
within 2 years. I can also vividly remember the first child I lost at the same 24
weeks old who never saw the world, he died in the loving protection of my womb
and came out to be buried in an unmarked
grave that I never saw.....( what a sad tradition) he was tiny and fragile and
what I regret most today was I never got the chance to hold him.The second was
a child still forming and was lost in my monthly flow, he/she was just 10
weeks old a body still forming to
accommodate a soul
All these happened within 3 years into
my marriage , it was a pressured I put
upon myself because that was what was expected of me, there was no pressure
from my in laws , my family nor my husband but then there was just something
missing and I felt like there was something wrong with me, it felt like I have
been married a hundred years without a child... My god! How then does a woman
married for five,10,15,20 years feels?I can't imagine ! Everything around me was just speaking one
word, get pregnant ,there was a rush
to get pregnant, nothing else matters.....I was not thinking about the child
sex.......nothing , my brain and thoughts had one story line and it was why am I
losing my pregnancies , why am I different ....and I need to keep trying ....
I can still feel the pain as if it were
yesterday, I can see the scenario unfold before me with the nurses, doctors and
my family and friends and I can still feel the raw pain and anger and still see
the pity on people faces and the search in their eyes and sometimes the
judgement too in those eyes but I live through it, I can't tell you how or what
I did but I lived , I survived it with love and support from a group of lovely
friends around me .
No one can tell you the pain of losing
a pregnancy, expecting a pregnancy each month that never shows up or the pain
of losing a child , no one can ever explain the anger you feel, the pain that
tears at you from within or the secret
fight and torment you put yourself through as you search for answers that are
not there.
You feel incomplete, you try to search
for things you have done wrong to deserve such punishment from nature (God) if
you fail to find answered to that you turn on to your closest families to see
if they were the cause of your pain, if they were doing something wrong, you
just keep looking and you end up seeing because your thoughts are your
perception and in turn your reality.... In our world it is our so called "enemies
“and these enemies are usually your husband's other wives or your in laws ....
And then the so call "mallams" and the
pastors find their ways into your life , waiting for just that to happen so
that they can pounce on you , it continues sometimes forever , making you
forget that there might be some medical explanation or method that can solve
the pain.....as it did mine and many other women. A lot of women have felled into
the terrible hands of some of this so called "men of God” that sucks you
dry of all your savings and make your life so miserable.....unfortunately in my
little community they are the first point of call if you have any issues, be it
pregnancy, career, good life....they blame the gods, witches and your enemies
while the get all they can from you, or a ridiculous cultural believe that you are meant to lose some children and keep some.
Some of us are opportune to know that there is always a medical option and
support , there has been so many advances in the medical field , some quite jaw
gaping and some very easy straight forward
procedures . And also social support option like
adoption...I know , this is usually not an option in our community , but it is what you want and the choice is yours, it is our joy and hearts fulfillment that matters most and the love and
care we will be able to provide a lost child. We just need to look and
ask and search, For I believe that once there is life then there is
hope and anything can happen.
The world has grown to offer chances, choices and hope to many men and women, to give them that chance they have always wanted, to have a child of their own . Does the method matter? To me, NO, as far as I get to call that child mine..... It's all about satisfying that need, that strong need to have my own child.
The world has grown to offer chances, choices and hope to many men and women, to give them that chance they have always wanted, to have a child of their own . Does the method matter? To me, NO, as far as I get to call that child mine..... It's all about satisfying that need, that strong need to have my own child.
I now have two lovely and adorable
boys, the quench and pain is gone but only a dull tug of pain when I remember my
lost children, that never tested the world but I know they are somewhere lovely
and exciting and who knows maybe they are the gentle souls that touch my heart
with love and kindness once in a while when life gets too demanding. Now my
time is spend loving ,teaching and caring for my boys. Mind you, I still yell,
scream and need a break from them, that is what makes me human, but then
there was a time I felt desperate to have that utter dysfunction and craziness
around me now created by my children. I would have done anything including
drinking a frog shake ( I saw that in my research on fertility and child birth
from a Chinese traditional medical recipe) and other unbelievable mixture to have a child. I am
back to being the me and I adore and thank nature (God) every day for
the blessings as they are a blessing to my life and to the world....
Below is the same story published by Women for one
http://womenforone.com/all-i-want-is-a-child-parenthood-and-infertility-by-rahinatu-adamu/
Learn more about living above infertility and connecting with other women visit http://www.cuddles-n-giggles.org/
Thursday, 7 May 2015
Turning 39……
In February 2015 I turned 39. It was a birthday
filled with mixed feelings; feelings of Thankfulness and feelings of sadness.
Thankfulness for being Me....for trying to understand and loving me, gentle
sadness with pure simple thoughts of it took me 39 years to start learning and
appreciating me, life, love ......in my silent moment on that day I ask myself
how did I allow myself to be in my 30s before I understood the meaning of living,
why did I waste so much years struggling when life can be as simple as I make
it? But then on second thoughts I say to myself I am glad it took that long for
the learning was worth it... I know why I am here ...life... I am glad that I
found out the simple things that makes life great, the simple beautiful logic
behind life before my 40th birthday ...which to me is to love and to be
grateful for this amazing experience we call life. This thought makes me happy
for I realize that my life is just beginning...... And my learning is just opening
up to more and more, I am like a vacuum getting filled up with knowledge every
second.
Now I understand the concept of being quite, of
being alone and knowing me, the concept of loving and giving without expecting anything,
the meaning of selflessness. I think I know a bit on all this and my heart is
open to learning more and more each day as the sun comes up
At different points of my 30s I have learnt so
many vital lessons, some through very painful experiences and some while just
being me the 'aha' moment comes. Life I have realize is the way you make it, it
is all disco with bright lights if you want it and it is all so sad and
difficult, swallowing you in misery if you let it.....taking things as the come
and accepting it fully and living it fully has brighten up very dark moments
for me, it has not been easy but then nothing ever was or everything ever
is….it all depends on how you look at it.
....but who am I ........at 39 I am still
exploring , still learning and still taking aback by the beauty called life....
now I can laugh over things, smile and define what I want in a charming way, get angry, jealous ,
pained and more but I remember to breath and I remember to remind myself that
it is just life and I can sit here and have tantrums or just be grateful ,
accept and learn more and grow more and just live in the moment, I have learnt
in life tantrums don't get you anywhere , it is just a filled up , crowded bus
stop with so many passengers waiting and so I have learn to pack my bags light
and hop on the camel and hump up and down than wait at the bus stop......... It
makes my journey faster and easier
Simple pleasures, quite moments and gentle
kisses and hugs from my adorable boys sparks my day , I realize that living
life fully at all moments and appreciating everything that comes my way brings
much more happiness. I realize love is not something I wish for; it is
something I am, something I do, something I give away and vibrate in ....it is
me ....I am love in its purest form.
Understanding that everyone around me is
"me" in a different form and humans are a race of One , reminding
myself that we are all one ,with the same air to breath and one earth to house
us all but diverse in our own little ways... Understanding the beauty in God
and my oneness with God in a unique and gratifying way has made me strong and
free. To me the appreciation that Life is all about learning and acceptance in
our diversity as humans has made me see the beauty in everyone and in
everything that I do and I am still learning all these in my 30s.
Sometimes in awe of life I ask myself did I
learn to slow , did I miss so many learning opportunities and special moments
because I was blind for so long , did things that would have made me different
past me by? I wonder but then it downed on me that from my birth to me being 39
was a learning experience and things that past me by , things I did not realize
till now and those moments that I assumed lost were all part of my
learning....this is the time that I chose to open up to who I am and to see the
world in all of its beauty . So no time was lost...no moments were lost....
Things are the way they are supposed to be and my alignment is in tune.
So , I am 39 still trying to love life and live
life to the fullest I can with 2 adorable boys and a great man beside me that
are all part of my learning and my gratitude to this life , And most of all to myself
as I grow in understanding of who and what I am , what is my purpose in this beautiful and
amazing thing ....experience ....concept....growth...we call LIFE.
Thursday, 15 January 2015
Thoughts in my Head
Hmmmmm
Just this morning as I was driving to the office after
dropping the kids off in school, as I only listen to the radio when am alone in
the car.... I don't want the kids picking up any adult words ....I am sure all
parents understand this!.......anyway back to the issue at hand...I heard on
the radio that a place either in the UK or US (I missed that part of the story)
was legalizing the term “intersex "to be put in place for a child that has
both male and female characteristics, rather than making the parent chose
between male or female gender. Well interesting isn't it? I must say that some
years back we never thought anything about sexuality, it was just the male and
female sex and nothing more but today there is just so much discussion on this,
maybe it is globalization? Maybe demands of human rights and maybe just too
much information going round! Whatever! To me "intersex" on a child's
birth certificate just doesn’t seem complete ....so you ask me what is
complete?. ....... (Still thinking don’t have an answer to that yet)
Sex and sexuality…... does your sex determine your
sexuality? Maybe and maybe not…..But then really what is all this talk on
sexuality? I remember some years ago, your sex determines your sexuality, that
was all and nothing more needs to be said on that.....that was it! Well that
was some years back.
I was at a party 2 days ago hosted by a Bangladesh friend of
my husband and we got into the sexuality conversation with an American, I don't
need to tell you for how long we had that discussion, well it was practically
most of the discussion I had that night!
To me , Sexuality is a complex part of our personality and
'self ' ... .....it's all about expressing thy self as a sexual being and
responding to someone or something attractive to us, no matter our sex...Human
sexuality is broad and involves behaviors
and activities that has nothing to do with the sex of the person. your sexuality is as unique as you are.
The Bottom line here is that my sexuality should be all about
my sexual interest and preferences! It is about me feeling comfortable and
relax in that preference. It defines who I am sexually, it is my identity, it
is what makes me happy and satisfied. we all have different and unique ways of
identifying ourselves sexually , it could be the simple "accepted
norm" of spouses , it could be the complicated "unaccepted behavior
" of gays, lesbians and bi or the absolutely unthinkable fixations and the
crazy kinky stuff that defies "natural".........., but who am I to say
what “natural” is and what “unacceptable” is.....
Over the years there has been different arguments on human sexuality;
Sigmund Freud believes that sexuality is instinctive and you are born with it
and John Locke believes you learn from
your environment, you are born blank but your environment molds you. I guess I
am hanging in between the two, wondering if my environment drove my sexuality,
made me who I am sexually today or if I
was born the way I am?
Over the years there has been series of arguments on what is
acceptable sexually and what is "unthinkable, unaccepted" sexually,
and the argument continues.........I leave that to the thinkers and
arguementors (is there a word like
that?) of our Mother Earth....So back to the legalization and the discussion on
the radio, I was amaze with all the ideas, comments and arguments of the
callers and hmmm , someone actually said “Satan” is taking over!!! I had a good
laugh, but then some of the comments where quite though provoking.
Well either way, we
have two arguments and millions of sexual expressions in the world today , each
unique in its self, some quite "disturbing" and others “beautiful” in
there fullness (depending on who is classifying!) . I don't try to judge or
understand people’s sexuality, I just leave with it and try to learn from it
and grow in my understanding of nature and in my own sexuality.
Thursday, 30 October 2014
An Open Letter to Our World: IS IT POSSIBLE THAT MUCH OF WHAT WE THOUGHT ABOUT GOD IS WRONG?
Well what do you think of the below;did it get you thinking.....asking questions and wondering.......
It’s not a small thing to be wrong about God. And if nearly everyone on the planet is wrong about God, it’s really not a small thing.
If nearly everyone on the planet has mistaken notions about God, then nearly everything that everyone on the planet is doing will not work the way it was intended.
This is because the basis of so much of what they’re doing is found in so many of their beliefs about God.
Think not?
Think again.
Nearly all of civilization’s modern laws emerged from the early rules and laws of some faith tradition. Nearly all of humanity’s moral codes derive from the mandates of a religion. Nearly every political movement and economic theory is based on ideas of justice, right-and-wrong, and basic fairness first espoused by spiritual teachers.
Even those who don’t believe in God are impacted and guided by many of the fundamental principles placed into the Cultural Story by those who do.
And a striking number of the personal decisions made by billions of individuals across the globe are made within the context of what they believe to be the purpose of life, what they believe happens when this life is over, what they believe about God, and about what God wants.
So it’s not a small thing to be wrong about God.
Proposition: Not one of the systems we have put into place to make life better on this planet is working.
Wait. It’s worse.
Not only have the systems we have put into place failed to produce the outcomes for which they were intended—they are actually producing exactly the opposite.
I have made this point before, in a number of books I have written. I believe it is worth repeating, with emphasis.
Our political systems are actually increasing disagreement and disarray. Our economic systems are actually increasing poverty and the gulf between the rich and the poor. Our ecological systems are actually increasing environmental degradation.
Our health care systems are actually increasing inequality of access to modern medicines and health care services. Our educational systems are actually increasing the knowledge gap. Our social systems are actually increasing disparity, disharmony, and injustice.
And, perhaps saddest of all, our spiritual systems are actually increasingrighteousness, intolerance, anger, hatred, violence, and war.
If the improvement of human life upon the earth were a laboratory experiment, it would have long ago been considered an abject failure.
Indeed, an appalling disaster.
Not everyone agrees. There are those who believe that humanity is evolving to higher and higher levels of sophistication and achievement, producing a better and better quality of life for all the members of our species.
It is possible that they would not, however, be among the 842 million people (one in eight in the world) who do not have enough to eat. It is certain that they would not be the parents of the over 650 children who die of starvation every hour.
They would presumably not be among the 20.9 million women and children who are bought and sold into commercial sexual servitude every year.
They would also, one imagines, not be among the over three billion people who live on less than $2.50 a day, or the billions who have no access to health care. (Some 19,000 children die each day from preventable health issues, such as malaria, diarrhea, and pneumonia.)
They would probably also not be among the 1.7 billion people who lack clean water, or the 2.6 billion without basic sanitation, or the 1.6 billion people—a quarter of humanity—who live without electricity.
That’s right. In the first quarter of the twenty-first century, 2.6 billion people live without toilets, and 1.6 billion without electricity.
How is this possible?, you might ask. And that is a very good question.
It is an especially good question given that humanity imagines itself to be a “civilized” species. To the people in the above categories, the “civilization of Civilization” has not even begun.
A planet where 5 percent of the population owns or controls 95 percent of the wealth and resources—and where most of that 5 percent think this is perfectly okay, even as unconscionable numbers languish in lack and suffering—would not seem to be a planet on which a great deal of humanitarian advancement has been achieved.
All of this is possible because of the collective values of those people who can do something about it. And where do those values come from? I suggest they derive in large part from the well-intentioned, but mistaken, beliefs about God held by many human beings—including those who do not believe in God at all.
Does anybody care that our species has been such a failure—or why?
Does anybody imagine it has not been?
Does anybody want to know how this whole situation can be turned around in the blink of an eye?
Does anyone want to know how his or her own personal life can be changed for the better with the embracing of a single idea?
Do you? Do you want to know?
(If you do, you may wish to read more from GOD’S MESSAGE TO THE WORLD: You’ve Got Me All Wrong. The above narrative forms the first chapter of that book, released Oct 23. To read four more sample chapters, go here. )
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