Hmmmmm
Just this morning as I was driving to the office after
dropping the kids off in school, as I only listen to the radio when am alone in
the car.... I don't want the kids picking up any adult words ....I am sure all
parents understand this!.......anyway back to the issue at hand...I heard on
the radio that a place either in the UK or US (I missed that part of the story)
was legalizing the term “intersex "to be put in place for a child that has
both male and female characteristics, rather than making the parent chose
between male or female gender. Well interesting isn't it? I must say that some
years back we never thought anything about sexuality, it was just the male and
female sex and nothing more but today there is just so much discussion on this,
maybe it is globalization? Maybe demands of human rights and maybe just too
much information going round! Whatever! To me "intersex" on a child's
birth certificate just doesn’t seem complete ....so you ask me what is
complete?. ....... (Still thinking don’t have an answer to that yet)
Sex and sexuality…... does your sex determine your
sexuality? Maybe and maybe not…..But then really what is all this talk on
sexuality? I remember some years ago, your sex determines your sexuality, that
was all and nothing more needs to be said on that.....that was it! Well that
was some years back.
I was at a party 2 days ago hosted by a Bangladesh friend of
my husband and we got into the sexuality conversation with an American, I don't
need to tell you for how long we had that discussion, well it was practically
most of the discussion I had that night!
To me , Sexuality is a complex part of our personality and
'self ' ... .....it's all about expressing thy self as a sexual being and
responding to someone or something attractive to us, no matter our sex...Human
sexuality is broad and involves behaviors
and activities that has nothing to do with the sex of the person. your sexuality is as unique as you are.
The Bottom line here is that my sexuality should be all about
my sexual interest and preferences! It is about me feeling comfortable and
relax in that preference. It defines who I am sexually, it is my identity, it
is what makes me happy and satisfied. we all have different and unique ways of
identifying ourselves sexually , it could be the simple "accepted
norm" of spouses , it could be the complicated "unaccepted behavior
" of gays, lesbians and bi or the absolutely unthinkable fixations and the
crazy kinky stuff that defies "natural".........., but who am I to say
what “natural” is and what “unacceptable” is.....
Over the years there has been different arguments on human sexuality;
Sigmund Freud believes that sexuality is instinctive and you are born with it
and John Locke believes you learn from
your environment, you are born blank but your environment molds you. I guess I
am hanging in between the two, wondering if my environment drove my sexuality,
made me who I am sexually today or if I
was born the way I am?
Over the years there has been series of arguments on what is
acceptable sexually and what is "unthinkable, unaccepted" sexually,
and the argument continues.........I leave that to the thinkers and
arguementors (is there a word like
that?) of our Mother Earth....So back to the legalization and the discussion on
the radio, I was amaze with all the ideas, comments and arguments of the
callers and hmmm , someone actually said “Satan” is taking over!!! I had a good
laugh, but then some of the comments where quite though provoking.
Well either way, we
have two arguments and millions of sexual expressions in the world today , each
unique in its self, some quite "disturbing" and others “beautiful” in
there fullness (depending on who is classifying!) . I don't try to judge or
understand people’s sexuality, I just leave with it and try to learn from it
and grow in my understanding of nature and in my own sexuality.
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